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  14. In addressing their assumption, I was implicitly using the definition preferred by critics of Taken In Hand. When someone consciously “considers you an equal in terms of power,” relative power is a significant element in the relationship. And, when maintaining strict equality is philosophically essential, any act can be interpreted as an attempt to shift the balance of power or to imply incompetence, depending on which way the wind is blowing.
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  16. If I correctly understand your comments about your relationship, I think that you are describing the effects of being cherished. The more a woman is cherished, the more she experiences the benefits of power, regardless of how much power she actually has.
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  18. by John on 2006 Mar 16 - 15:17 | reply to this comment
  19. To RichM (“nurture and caring”)
  20. Rich,
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  22. You are right that nurturing and “taking care of each other” are essentially the same.
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  24. What I should have stated more clearly is that it is the power inequality itself that ensures that both partners will experience nurturing as only a kind-hearted act. That is why “it is delightfully easy for both partners in a good ‘unequal’ relationship to take care of each other and to bring joy to each other, on an ongoing basis.”
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  26. When a dominant man actively takes control, he removes power-struggle interpretations from the relationship, both for his woman and for himself.
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  28. In a relationship that is based on strict equality, any act or aspect of nurturing could be interpreted or reinterpreted, at any time, as an attempt to shift the balance of power. But when one partner (man or woman) unambiguously maintains control, there are no power-game undercurrents.
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  30. A man who is unquestionably in control can indulge his woman unconditionally because he doesn’t have to weigh each act to determine its effect on a delicate balance of power or on his position within the relationship. In a good Taken In Hand relationship, both the man and the woman experience nurturing by the other as only an act of caring and love, because the issues of dominance and control have already been settled.
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